Online dating engagement is at an all time high. With so many dating websites and apps popping up recently, plus the ongoing pandemic, a lot of people in the United States are starting to look to meet people online in the hopes that they can find a match.
As with anything we do online, there are ways to go about internet dating that can make or break our experience. Make a move too quickly and you might be taken as being very aggressive. Wait too long and you might miss out on the opportunity to create meaningful connections. Much like dating in real life, finding that perfect balance in how you act towards potential matches is one of the keys to a happy ending.
These dating etiquette tips don’t have to be followed to the T, but they can help you have a great experience when looking for potential partners and might even increase your chances of success. Whatever your sexual orientation, consider these tips when looking for a match online:
1. Don’t Leave Them Hanging
There is nothing wrong with taking your time. You are allowed to consider all your options before opening communication lines with someone new. However, taking too long might have them thinking that you are not interested in them and they might move on instead of waiting for you to reply.
Replying after a day or two seems like a good enough length of time for you to know whether you have an interest in getting to know someone or not.
2. Don’t Send a Follow-Up Message
So, you’ve started the conversation by sending a message to someone you would like to connect with. If he or she hasn’t replied to you yet, keep your wits about you and refrain from sending a follow-up message. Even if you already have an existing chat thread with someone and they haven’t replied to you in a while. Avoid following up with a: ‘Hey! I haven’t heard from you in quite a while.”
If someone is really interested in you, they will get back to you eventually. Follow-up messages can give off the vibe that you are desperate and needy – vibes you definitely don’t want to be associated with when trying to find a partner.
3. Accept Who They Are
If you have opposing political or religious views with a potential match, don’t try to sway them to your beliefs. If they don’t drink, deal with it and don’t try to convince them that it’ll be more fun if they start drinking.
As long as they are not doing anything illegal, don’t try to change who they are and what they like to do. There are plenty of fish out there if you don’t like who you are talking to right now.
4. Ask Interesting Questions
Online dating thrives when there is interaction between both parties. Don’t just wait for the other person to make the move and react or reply to it. Be engaging and show that you are also interested in getting to know him or her as well.
It doesn’t have to be genius level questions. You can keep your queries light and fun, like asking how their weekend was, but it doesn’t hurt to be creative as well.
5. Tone Down Your Language
Some people are so confident just because they are online and the other person can’t see them. Some try to get to the ‘naughty’ part as fast as they can and try to move from casual talk to ‘sexting’ immediately. If they match up with someone with the same line of thinking, then that’s good for them. Most of the time though, this type of behavior doesn’t sit well with the crowd.
The general rule is that, when dating online, don’t say or do things that you wouldn’t do or say if you are out on a date face-to-face.
6. Be Fun – Use Emojis & GIFs
Based on research, the likelihood of getting a response on a dating site increases by 30% when people use a GIF as compared to just plain text or emojis. Apps like Tinder allow you to use GIFs and emojis in your conversation and you should take advantage of this when trying to engage a person.
GIFs and emojis do a better job in expressing your feelings and also show that you have a light and fun side – characteristics that are sure to get you plus points from anyone.
7. Stick To Social Media For Now
People are well aware of the information one can get from a phone number, which is why most of us are extra careful and picky when it comes to sharing their numbers to anyone – especially to someone they barely know.
At the onset, it’s best to stick to the dating app where you met online until you develop better chemistry before asking for a phone number.
8. Be Truthful
Being honest about who you are is not only better – it’s easier – than trying to keep up a false facade just to try to get someone to like you. Everyone slips up eventually, no matter how long it takes. A lot of people take their time on a dating app seriously and they expect those that they engage with to be completely honest with them. It would be disheartening to lose the partner of your dreams just because of a little white lie.
9. Set Up a Date After A Week Or Two
In line with finding that right balance, asking to meet up too soon might turn someone off as you might come out as being too aggressive. Likewise, waiting too long might lead to disinterest and make them look for someone else to date.
If you have maintained constant communication and have shared a lot of information with each other, a week’s worth of online rendezvous should be enough to ask someone to meet up in real life.
10. Don’t Be Afraid To Ghost
If you feel that there’s just not enough of a common ground between you and your match, or if you notice any warning signs that the person on the other end of the line might be a fraud, it’s perfectly ok to ghost them.
If your gut feel says that you should cut connections immediately, it is better to do so rather than sticking around to see if you were right or wrong in the way you read a person.
Following these tips on dating etiquette is not a guarantee that you will find your prince charming and live happily ever after. What it can do is give you a shot at meeting someone who you can have a long term relationship with and at the same time weed out those you wouldn’t match with and even save you from a potentially dangerous scenario.
Another piece of advice we can give you is to do your research when you meet someone new. People-finder apps like ClickSearch can give you a lot of information about someone without having to engage them in conversation just yet.
Is it OK to do online dating?
As long as you stay on the side of caution, you may be able to find a perfect partner through online dating.
How can I locate a person for free?
Aside from Google and Bing, ClickSearch has a free 3-day trial which you can use to look up people online.
What kind of guys go on online dating apps?
Everyone can be online and create a dating profile, which is why you have to be careful when choosing a match.
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