Marriage is referred to as tying the knot as it is the process of uniting two people in a single bond that will, hopefully, last a lifetime.
Whether you’ve decided to elope with your partner, to dive into a common law marriage, or to go through a traditional ceremony, you have to be consciously aware of what you’re getting yourself into. Marriage is not like a trial and error experiment; it is a long-term commitment.
Dating is like a prerequisite of marriage. It’s the much-needed stage to get to know each other. So, before officiating and legalizing your relationship, you both need to establish openness and acceptance. Before taking the big leap, make sure you really know your partner.
After addressing the above points, you’ll know for certain if you want to tie the knot.
Marriage doesn’t guarantee you happily ever after. Just because the big day is over, doesn’t mean your relationship stops changing and evolving. In fact, the real work starts after marriage.
It takes a consistent effort to maintain and nurture a healthy marriage. You both have to endlessly and tirelessly express your love for one another. It doesn’t have to be always grand gestures or expensive gifts. A goodnight kiss or a breakfast in bed, for instance, can go a long way.
Work on your personal growth together. Just because you’re living under the same roof doesn’t mean you have to spend every moment with each other. You have to maintain personal spaces and allow each other to go after your personal desires. Support them without suffocating them. Give them, and yourself, room to grow and bloom.
An intimate relationship is not just about the physical touches, but the unspoken commitment as well. It’s about that assurance that you let them know not through plain words, but actions. It takes a lot of dedication and devotion from both parties for a marriage to last.
Self-love is a crucial requirement for a successful marriage. After all, you can't give what you don't have. Like how Alexandra Solomon, a licensed clinical psychologist and professor at Northwestern University, points out in her “Relational Self-Awareness: The Key to Navigating Modern Love” talk, you have to acknowledge and embrace yourself first, allowing you to open up to and connect with your better half.
Marriage may sound scary, but it's undeniably a beautiful thing.